Posted by Starlights husband
Posted by Starlights husband
Posted by january99
The debut novel is a tricky thing. Sure, the author may have put out short story collections or written pieces for major magazines, but a novel is truly a different animal, one which some authors have likened to a first child or first love (or first heartbreak). In composing their first novel, writers must temper their excitement at being given the opportunity to present hundreds of pages to the public with the discipline to create a story memorable enough to bring readers back for their second attempt. Finding that balance isn’t always easy, but when a debut novel works, it’s a uniquely electrifying literary experience. Here are ten of 2013′s best.
Jason Diamond, The 10 Best Debut Novels of 2013
"You should get help"
“You need help”
Something I’m sure all of us suffering from depression have heard many times. Something that no matter how many times you hear it or how many different ways it’s worded never gets any easier.
When you spend your days struggling to muster the strength of doing even simple tasks that many people don’t think twice about such as getting out of bed or getting dressed, you don’t understand how it’s not just a matter of waking up and walking into a therapist’s office.
It’s not that easy. And whether or not you understand it, you cannot play it off to be something that is super easy. You may not see it as being a big deal, but that doesn’t give you the right to treat it like it isn’t. If it were easy, everyone would do it.
Just throwing out “you need help,” is nothing but insensitive and rude no matter how much warmth and care is behind it. That doesn’t change the fact that it’s a big deal and should be treated like one. Just because someone doesn’t seek help from a therapist right away does not give you the right to dismiss that person.
Going to therapy is hard. Going again after not liking it is harder. After working up all that courage to go spill the beans about how terrible of a person you have been only to not like your therapist and have to sop seeing them anyway because you lost your insurance that barely covered the $100 copay visits in the first place, it gets harder to wok up the courage AGAIN and have to start all over again. If they could just automatically know my past and get straight into the helping me get better crap, maybe it would be easier to go.
The fact is: It’s not easy. But just because I am trying to improve myself at a rate that is barely comfortable for me anyway does not give anyone the right to make me feel bad about “not trying hard enough.” You will never know what hard enough is. Only I can be the judge of that.
Just writing in my journal on a nightly basis is hard and uncomfortable. Something that seems so trivial is hard as fuck. Just because you don’t understand it, don’t you dare fucking judge me for “not trying hard enough.” Don’t you fucking dare.
This. A million times this.
I can relate
A master of persuasion performs three fascinating hour-long experiments that explore how powerful psychchological techniques can be used to control our behaviour:
The Heist - Can conditioning and persuasion be used to make an ordinary person commit armed robbery?
The Assassin - Is it possible to use hypnotism to transform an innocent victim into a killer, and make him forget it ever happend?
The Guilt Trip - How easy is it to use feelings of guilt to make someone confess to a crime they didn’t commit?
Don’t ever try to play that “I have it worse than you do” game with people. Don’t ever try to minimize someone else’s problems or invalidate their feelings just because you or someone else may have it worse. To imply that their problems “aren’t that bad” or their feelings are “irrational” is very insulting and unnecessarily rude. That’s an insensitive, inconsiderate and horrible thing to do to someone. Don’t be that jackass.